10 Steps to Being a Homemaker When I Feel Unqualified
Some days, homemaking feels natural. Other days, I have wonder if I’m even cut out for it. If you’ve ever felt unqualified, you’re not alone. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to be perfect to be a homemaker. You just have to start.
This list isn’t in any particular order of importance, but each step has helped me. Let’s grab our favorite drink and talk about it. Water for me, what about you?
1. Do Your Best Work
Whatever season you’re in, do your best with what you have. No one expects perfection, but effort matters. Work toward being the best version of you. Progress over perfection.
2. Enjoy the Now
It’s easy to always look ahead—planning the next meal, the next chore, the next season of life. But don’t miss what’s in front of you. There’s joy in the little things, like a freshly made bed or a quiet morning with coffee.
3. What Three Things Can You Do Today for a Better Tomorrow?
Small actions add up. Maybe it’s prepping tomorrow’s dinner, setting out clothes for the morning, or wiping the counters before bed. Three simple things can make a big difference.
4. Maximize Your Role
Hone in on your craft. Know it, learn about it, and grow in it. Read books on homemaking. Listen to podcasts. Focus on the Family has great resources. Grab a cookbook and try a new recipe. Homemaking is a skill—one that gets better with practice.
5. Take on the Right Perspective
Homemaking is a series of repeated tasks. Dishes, laundry, meals—it’s never-ending. But instead of dreading the repetition, shift your mindset. Own your role. There is only one you. Use your talents and passions right where you are. Remember, you can learn new things.
6. Renew Your Mind Every Day
Give yourself a pep talk. This isn’t the first or last time you’ll feel unqualified. Punch fear in the face. Be willing to fail. Be willing to learn. Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Keep going.
7. Put on the Blinders
Comparison steals joy. Don’t get stuck measuring yourself against others unless it truly inspires you. You don’t have to be a Pinterest-perfect homemaker. Just be you.
8. Give Yourself Time to Learn
Start with a few simple things. If cooking overwhelms you, learn a couple of go-to meals. If cleaning feels endless, set a timer and tackle one room at a time. When you mess up, get back on the horse. Grace over guilt.
9. Find Joy in the Small Things
The repeated tasks. The daily rhythms. The simple moments. Homemaking isn’t about one big accomplishment—it’s about faithfulness in the everyday. When the days feel monotonous, remind yourself: this work matters.
10. Remember Who You Are Working For
Colossians 3:23 says, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” Even the smallest tasks have purpose. The meals you cook, the laundry you fold, and the home you care for—it all serves a greater purpose.
Homemaking isn’t about being naturally gifted or perfectly qualified. It’s about showing up, learning as you go, and embracing the work before you. And guess what? You’re doing better than you think.
Frequently Asked Questions About Homemaking
Who is a homemaker?
A homemaker is anyone—male or female, young or old—who works to make their home a place of comfort, peace, and belonging.
You don’t have to be a stay-at-home mom or dad to be a homemaker. If you care about creating a space where your family feels safe and loved, you are a homemaker.
Why do I feel unqualified?
Because new things feel hard. But feeling unqualified doesn’t mean you are unqualified. It means you’re learning.
That feeling of doubt? That’s the enemy trying to keep you stuck. God equips those He calls. You may have to practice, study, and grow, but you can do this.
And remember—this won’t be the first or last challenge you face. You’ve overcome hard things before, and you’ll do it again.
How do you get it all done in homemaking?
You don’t. No one does. Homemaking isn’t about finishing everything—it’s about being faithful with what’s in front of you.
Pick three main goals for the day. Work on those. Then the next three. Then the next three. It’s just like any job—day in, day out, doing the next right thing.
What is the job description of a homemaker?
A homemaker’s role is to make the home a place of peace, comfort, and joy. It’s not about perfection; it’s about creating a space where your family feels safe, where guests feel welcome, and where love is evident in the little things.
What’s the next step in learning how to be a homemaker?
Start with your mindset. Say to yourself, I am a homemaker. I love doing this for myself and my family. Then, find resources that inspire you. Read books. Listen to podcasts. Follow others who encourage you in this journey. But most importantly—start where you are, with what you have.
How does being a homemaker help me get my dream job or could it be my dream job?
Homemaking teaches valuable life skills:
- Time management—balancing priorities and schedules
- Organization—keeping things in order
- Patience—working through challenges
- Kindness—serving others
- Humility—learning and growing
- Problem-solving—finding solutions to everyday issues
The skills you develop at home will help you in any career, from business to leadership to ministry.
10 Practical Steps to Get Started as a Homemaker
1. Start with one small habit—Make your bed every morning.
2. Create a simple daily routine—Pick 3 homemaking tasks and repeat them daily.
3. Declutter one area—A clean space brings peace.
4. Learn one new recipe—Cooking at home is a homemaker’s superpower.
5. Set up a cozy spot—Make a space in your home where you love to be.
6. Stock up on essentials—Having the right tools makes homemaking easier.
7. Find joy in small things—Light a candle, play music, embrace the process.
8. Stop striving for perfection—Done is better than perfect.
9. Speak life over your role—Say I am a homemaker, and this work matters.
10. Give it time—Skills grow with practice. Keep showing up.
Let’s keep going. One step at a time. I can’t believe that I have over 20 years of experience in homemaking.
It has looked different throughout the years, but the main thing has always been the main thing. Love God and love others.
With love,
Anna Sue
